The Dos and Don’ts of Picking Your Perfect Posse
Your wedding party is a special group of people who will stand by your side and support you throughout your journey to the altar. When it comes to selecting your wedding party, it’s important to remember that this is your day, and you should choose those who truly matter to you. Below are the dos and don’ts of picking your perfect posse and emphasize the importance of selecting those you genuinely want, rather than feeling obligated to follow traditional norms.
Do: Consider Your Closest Relationships
When assembling your wedding party, prioritize the people who have been there for you through thick and thin. These are the friends and family members who have stood by your side, offering unwavering support and love. Choose individuals who have played a significant role in your life and will continue to support you as you embark on this new chapter. Remember, your wedding party should consist of those who truly matter to you, regardless of their gender or relationship with you. My daughter had her brothers in her bridal party and her partner had his sister in his groom’s party.
Don’t: Succumb to External Expectations
Society and/or family often impose expectations and norms when it comes to selecting a wedding party. However, it’s essential to remember that your wedding day should reflect your unique story and preferences. Don’t feel pressured to include someone simply because it’s expected or because you feel obligated to reciprocate an invitation. Your wedding party should be comprised of individuals who genuinely make you happy and who you want by your side on this special day.
Do: Communicate Openly and Honestly
When deciding on your wedding party, have open and honest conversations with your partner and those involved. Discuss your preferences, expectations, and the significance of the roles. This ensures that everyone is on the same page and understands the importance of being a part of your wedding party. Clear communication will help avoid misunderstandings and allow you to make informed decisions based on the relationships that matter most to you. If someone is hurt because they were not asked to be part of the party, talk with them and be clear and honest. If they are still upset even after talking, then it’s clear you made the right choice.
Don’t: Compare or Compete
Choosing your wedding party should not become a competition or a popularity contest. Remember, it’s not about quantity but about the quality of relationships. Avoid comparing your choices with others or feeling pressured to have the same number of attendants as someone else. Focus on the meaningful connections you have and select your wedding party accordingly, without letting external influences cloud your judgment. “Comparision is the thief of joy.” ~ Theodore Roosevelt
Do: Consider Personalities and Dynamics
When assembling your wedding party, take into account the personalities and dynamics among your chosen individuals. It’s important to ensure that your wedding party will work together harmoniously and contribute to a positive atmosphere. Consider how they interact with one another and with you. Surround yourself with people who will support you, bring joy to the occasion, and help create wonderful memories.
Choosing your wedding party is a personal and significant decision that should be based on your desires and relationships. Remember, it’s your special day, and you should surround yourself with those who genuinely matter to you. Focus on the dos: considering your closest relationships, communicating openly, and selecting individuals who will bring happiness and support to your wedding journey. Avoid the don’ts: succumbing to external expectations, comparing or competing, and compromising on your true desires. With a carefully chosen wedding party, your celebration will be filled with love, authenticity, cherished memories, and fun!
Remember, less is more
~ Melissa
